Why are Moms So Lonely?

I’ve been having this thought a lot lately:

In a world where there are literally hundreds- maybe thousands of ways to connect, why are there so many lonely Moms? Sometimes myself included!

Why is authentic connection so hard to find? Is it because instead of talking, everyone is looking at a screen? In waiting rooms, lines, stores….I went to the grocery store the other day, and spent a good amount of time maneuvering around people who had blocked the aisle because they were looking at their phones. I thought, “surely they’re looking at their grocery lists?” Nope- ALL of them were scrolling through Facebook. Yes, I checked!

While I understand that it’s a way to stay in touch with people we don’t get to see often, what about the people actually in front our faces?

That lonely Mom who spends all day with kids- craving connection. That elderly woman who rarely gets the chance to get out of the house, begging for a kind word.

It breaks my heart. 

I sat through my son’s Taekwondo lesson yesterday, and just watched everyone on their phones. People barely spoke a word to one another. These are people who meet week after week, and yet I only know a handful of their names.

It used to be considered rude to look at your phone when someone was talking to you, but now it’s perfectly socially acceptable. And, until that changes, there are still going to be so many lonely people.

Not only Mothers, but especially us! People are quick to offer advice (and pass judgement) with the anonymity of the internet. But, in real life, often it’s radio silence.

Let’s recognize that we’re living in a technologically driven world. I get it! I’m a blogger, so social media is actually even part of my job. But, let’s also recognize that there are actual people all around us. And that it’s important to interact. Because without physical human interaction, what are we left with?

Have you noticed this trend or am I being too sensitive? I know spending most of my days with a 6 year old can weigh on me, but my heart has been craving more authentic connection lately.

6 Comments

  1. Livi

    March 21, 2018 at 5:35 pm

    sometimes I feel like we are so busy taking care of our family that we forget to take care of ourselves! I think its like a mom guilt thing that we feel if we spend a day or even a few hours outside the home!

  2. Britney

    March 21, 2018 at 10:46 pm

    I’ve been feeling this way a lot lately since I quit my job where I got to socialize with a lot of moms! We’re so busy in life but I’ve been trying to take care of myself more this year!

  3. Brittany

    March 21, 2018 at 11:29 pm

    I totally get it. I see my husband and my family, but I rarely see anyone else. It’s through texts or Facebook chats that I talk to my “mom friends.” So when we go out to the library or play, I just want other people to TALK. The other parents at my daughter’s dance class are pretty good about chit chatting, because I think we’re all coming from that place of wanting someone to talk to that isn’t under the age of 5.

  4. Samantha Kuzyk

    March 22, 2018 at 3:06 pm

    I totally agree with you that technology has caused us all to lose touch with other people and forming authentic connections! When I’m out and about with my kids I don’t sit there on my phone but lots of parents do!

  5. Jennifer Maune | Maune Legacy

    March 22, 2018 at 9:37 pm

    I notice it too. The times that irk me the most is when I see it at restaurants! It’s crazy!
    -Jennifer
    https://maunelegacy.com

  6. Aseky Bonnaire

    March 22, 2018 at 10:43 pm

    I 100% agree with you!! When my husband and I are at dinner, and he even glances at his phone I’m like “PUT IT AWAY”. But as moms we get lonely, being home with kids all day, it’s easy to get deey connected into online relationships to fill that void of in person relationships!!

    Beautifully written!

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