{"id":57252,"date":"2016-03-15T06:31:28","date_gmt":"2016-03-15T06:31:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/xenodochial-archimedes.45-76-20-142.plesk.page\/2016x103x1how-having-kids-changes-marriage\/"},"modified":"2022-11-29T18:23:30","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T18:23:30","slug":"how-having-kids-changes-marriage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/2016\/03\/how-having-kids-changes-marriage.html","title":{"rendered":"How Having Kids Changes Marriage – Mrs. Bishop"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Let\u2019s be honest. Marriage is work. HARD work. And anyone that says different is a lying liar from liar-ville that lies.\u00a0It is forever changing. No two days are the same.<\/p>\n

Early on, your husband will laugh and think it\u2019s cute when you roll your eyes at him. On day 1,542, he\u2019ll get up and leave the room.<\/p>\n

The goofy man you married with the sense of humor you fell in love with won\u2019t seem so funny after 3 sleepless nights with a colicky infant. Or won\u2019t be able to make you laugh after you\u2019ve cleaned up vomit for the 3rd time in 2 hours.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll argue over screen time and what the kids have been eating. How long they napped. Or who\u2019s getting up to do the next diaper change.<\/p>\n

Once the kids are a little older, you won\u2019t see eye to eye on how to discipline them. An argument with your toddler will turn into an all out fight between each other- because you both KNOW what\u2019s best for them. One of you will be too strict, and one of you will be too laid back. And, the next thing you know, you\u2019re yelling at each other. Then our sweet little angels pick up on this. They learn how to turn us on each other when they\u2019re in trouble- making us forget who we were angry with in the first place.<\/p>\n

Late nights out and lazy days spent in will become a thing of the past. Naked breakfast in bed- sorry, never gonna happen again. \u2018Tis but a sweet memory.<\/p>\n

Have the urge to take a spur of the moment trip? Don\u2019t forget the diaper bag, extra swing, bouncy seat, boppy, extra diapers, extra clothes in case of a mess, formula, bottles, boots, jackets and coats in case it\u2019s cold, books, toys, batteries (for the toys), and for the love of all that is holy- do not forget the baby\u2019s favorite blankie! Oh, nevermind\u2026<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find most of your dinner conversations will become about your children. What they did. How they ate. Activities. Schedules. And, yes- how many poops they took that day.<\/p>\n

The things you had in common in the past morph into one big glob of nostalgia. These tiny people will take up most of your time and energy. Overtaking every aspect of your lives. You won\u2019t be able to shut it off. Your thoughts will be about them first. You\u2019ll think of them last before nodding off into sweet exhausted sleep.<\/p>\n

But- that\u2019s okay!<\/p>\n

You DO have these tiny humans in common. You created them together. You\u2019ll see your best and worst traits coming out in them. (The worst are obviously your partner\u2019s fault.)<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll high five your husband after you get the baby to sleep after a particularly long crying jag.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll wrap your arms around each other and sigh over their tiny sleeping forms. Amazed at how beautiful they are. (Then tiptoe out as quietly as possible, not wanting to risk waking them\u2026 again.)<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll split a bottle of wine at the end of a long week, and share laughs over the hilarious (and sometimes slightly inappropriate) things that your toddler said. Silently fist pump when you watch your child make the right choice without prompting.<\/p>\n

So, yes- they change us. Our marriages will never be the same. But, if we remember that we\u2019re in this together- the raising of the next generation, it will actually strengthen us. And our love for each other will only grow stronger.<\/p>\n

If our marriage can survive raising children, it can survive anything!<\/p>\n

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Let’s be honest. Marriage is work. HARD work. And anyone that says different is a lying liar from liar-ville that lies.\u00a0It is forever changing. No two days are the same. Early on, your husband will laugh and think it’s cute when you roll your eyes at him- having kids changes marriage.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":58792,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,32,15,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-57252","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-mommy","category-parenting","category-thoughts","category-uncategorized","has_thumb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57252","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=57252"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/57252\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/58792"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=57252"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=57252"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=57252"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}