{"id":58312,"date":"2015-11-09T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-11-09T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/xenodochial-archimedes.45-76-20-142.plesk.page\/2015x111x1the-inbetween\/"},"modified":"2022-11-29T18:25:45","modified_gmt":"2022-11-29T18:25:45","slug":"the-inbetween","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/2015\/11\/the-inbetween.html","title":{"rendered":"The Inbetween"},"content":{"rendered":"
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There\u2019s a space between what I see as normal, opposed to what the world sees.<\/p>\n

A spectrum of ability.<\/p>\n

As I watch my child play, he is a genius.<\/p>\n

He can read, spell, do math. He signs his name to his pictures, and memorizes songs on the radio. He has an amazing imagination in a world ruled by technology.<\/p>\n

But according to charts and graphs, he is behind.<\/p>\n

I fear the day I\u2019ll have to let him go. When he\u2019ll head to school where I can\u2019t explain to everyone his story. Where I can\u2019t protect him from being compared, tested, found wanting.<\/p>\n

Sometimes I drop him off at playgroup or the church nursery and he plays well, and other times they have to come get me- \u201che\u2019s freaking out\u201d, they say. I know they just don\u2019t understand what he\u2019s trying to tell them and he\u2019s frustrated.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve been told he\u2019s bossy, or \u201che\u2019s REALLY opinionated\u201d.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

I tend to blame myself.<\/p>\n

I must be a bad parent.<\/p>\n

I must be doing something wrong.<\/p>\n

He must need someone better.<\/p>\n

\u00a0<\/p>\n

But, then he tells me I\u2019m his best friend, and I realize I\u2019m doing my best- which is good enough.<\/p>\n

I am what HE needs.<\/p>\n

He is what I need.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s not abnormal, he\u2019s exceptional.<\/p>\n

He was born with his cord wrapped twice around his neck. Began having seizures on his second day in this world. With a birth defect that had his brain being compacted for the first 4 months of his life.<\/p>\n

When I look at all of the obstacles he\u2019s overcome- I\u2019m amazed!<\/p>\n

I just have to change MY\u00a0way of thinking. Instead of looking at how far he has to go, I need \u00a0to take the time to see how far he\u2019s come.<\/p>\n

I have to STOP\u00a0the comparison. Stop trying to make him \u201cnormal\u201d.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s normal anyway?<\/p>\n

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My son is behind on graphs and charts- but when I take the time to look how much he’s overcome, I am amazed. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":59639,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[27,5,15,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-58312","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-cranio","category-mommy","category-thoughts","category-uncategorized","has_thumb"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58312","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=58312"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/58312\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/59639"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=58312"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=58312"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/mrsbishop.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=58312"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}