My now husband and I were friends long before we began dating. We shared the same interests, activities, and could spend hours just talking. We became the best of friends before we even considered taking our relationship to the next level. I think this is hugely important. If you don’t have a lot in common with your spouse, you’re going to have a long lifetime ahead of you.
I am of the small group of people that believe marriage is truly forever. I don’t believe in divorce. It’s not for me. I picked the spouse I have on purpose. I knew most everything about him before I even started dating him. I knew from the start he would be an amazing husband and father. Even before I knew he would be mine. We always say it’s him and I against the world. And that is absolutely true.
I love my friends- I do. And I think time spent with friends is really important to my overall sanity and well being. But, if my spouse was not my very best friend, I feel like I’d be missing out. Think about it. Who do you spend the most time with? The hours after the littles go to bed? Those early mornings? Who has seen you at your absolute best, and worst?
The bible says, in Ephesians 5:31, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”
If I am going to be “of one flesh” with someone, you bet your booty I want that to be my best friend.
I am not saying that these articles I’ve read are wrong. But they just don’t apply to me. I want to grow old with my husband. I want to spend hours in conversation with him. I want to share the same interests. Yes, we do have hobbies that we do alone, but overall we’re cut from the same cloth.
If you didn’t marry your best friend, it’s not too late for your spouse to become your best friend. Spend more time together. Find a shared hobby/interest you can do together. We can always improve and continue working and growing in our marriage.
I hope I didn’t offend anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings. This has just been weighing on my heart since I read those articles, and I thought I would share my feelings.
Please share with me why or why you didn’t marry your best friend!
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