I {DID} Marry My Best Friend

I’ve seen a lot of articles being passed around lately entitled “I Didn’t Marry My Best Friend,” or something similar. In short, they are talking about the importance of friends, which I think is absolutely true. But, here’s where they don’t apply to me. Because I DID, in fact, marry mine.

My now husband and I were friends long before we began dating. We shared the same interests, activities, and could spend hours just talking. We became the best of friends before we even considered taking our relationship to the next level. I think this is hugely important. If you don’t have a lot in common with your spouse, you’re going to have a long lifetime ahead of you.

I am of the small group of people that believe marriage is truly forever. I don’t believe in divorce. It’s not for me. I picked the spouse I have on purpose. I knew most everything about him before I even started dating him. I knew from the start he would be an amazing husband and father. Even before I knew he would be mine. We always say it’s him and I against the world. And that is absolutely true.

I love my friends- I do. And I think time spent with friends is really important to my overall sanity and well being. But, if my spouse was not my very best friend, I feel like I’d be missing out. Think about it. Who do you spend the most time with? The hours after the littles go to bed? Those early mornings? Who has seen you at your absolute best, and worst?

The bible says, in Ephesians 5:31, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”

If I am going to be “of one flesh” with someone, you bet your booty I want that to be my best friend.

I am not saying that these articles I’ve read are wrong. But they just don’t apply to me. I want to grow old with my husband. I want to spend hours in conversation with him. I want to share the same interests. Yes, we do have hobbies that we do alone, but overall we’re cut from the same cloth.

If you didn’t marry your best friend, it’s not too late for your spouse to become your best friend. Spend more time together. Find a shared hobby/interest you can do together. We can always improve and continue working and growing in our marriage.

I hope I didn’t offend anyone or hurt anyone’s feelings. This has just been weighing on my heart since I read those articles, and I thought I would share my feelings.

Please share with me why or why you didn’t marry your best friend!


Scattered Thoughts of a Crafty Mom



  1. Nikki Frank-Hamilton

    April 13, 2015 at 4:47 pm

    I think that this really comes down to each person's personality and how they are put together. My husband is my best friend too. I am also an INFJ on the Meyer's Briggs personality test. INFJ's search their whole lives for the one person that they can totally trust, love, and be with forever. For me, this meant that I married my best friend. It is him and I against the world, us and our kids. We are a pack, and we love each other fiercely. But not everyone is made the same. Congratulations to you for finding the one that completes you.

    1. mrsbishop

      April 15, 2015 at 8:35 pm

      Thank you- happy to have found him! And I understand totally understand what you're saying.

  2. Kelsey

    April 15, 2015 at 6:05 pm

    I haven't come across those articles yet, but I really like what you've shared here. I've been married for just 9 months, and it's been a complete DELIGHT to grow closer to my husband, and find that he really is my best friend. The complete trust, enjoyment, and ability to be 100% ourselves together is unique to that relationship. I love my friends and will always keep them, and my husbands doesn't replace my girls, I still need them. But without a doubt I would agree that he is my best friend, and that is most definitely a good thing 🙂

    1. mrsbishop

      April 15, 2015 at 8:36 pm

      This is exactly what I'm saying! SO happy to be married to my best friend for the last (almost) 8 years- wishing you a happy life with your best friend!

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