Dear Mom of One
Sometimes when I talk about my parenting struggles, I can feel my friends rolling their eyes. They don’t mean to do it- but sometimes they do. They have 2 or more children and I only have one. So, any struggle I have must be twice as hard for them, right?
Getting woken up over and over by one child in the middle of the night must be much worse when you have 2? Having one sick toddler is exponentially less worse than having 3 kids that keep passing the sickness around. I get it. But, Moms of one. You are still doing the hardest job in the world!
Whether you have one child or 50, we are still raising the next generation of human beings. We are instilling values, and making sure they learn their ABC’s, and teaching them to brush their teeth, tie their shoes, say “please and thank you”.
We are still up all night calming fevers and wiping tears. We are still worried every day we’re doing everything all wrong.
Mom’s of one still struggle with sleep deprivation, busy schedules, mountains of laundry and piles of dishes. We still have errands to run and appointments to schedule.
I personally beat myself up a lot of the time, feeling awful for sharing my struggles with other mom’s who have been through 2 sick kids and are pregnant with another. But, don’t. We are in this together, Mommas. This crazy, messy, wonderful life. Let’s not judge and allow ourselves to feel judged.
Remind yourself we’ve all had bad days, one kid or ten.
Remember not to roll your eyes at your friend with 5 kids, when she is having a bad day. And she will also return the favor.
I don’t write this post to be resentful or sound angry, because I’m not. Most of my friends understand and share in my struggle with no judgement. And I love that. I just want to remind other Mom’s of one…you are not alone. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed sometimes. You are doing a good job.
Mom of one. You are enough.
Feel free to share this with your fellow Mom’s of One who may need a little encouragement!